I am so happy that God touched you the way He did that Sunday, many times I have been touched, only to look around and see that maybe not everyone else was sharing my ...heavenly experience...lol..but that's ok...when God is really touching you...onlookers opinions don't really seem to weigh to heavily compared to God's Glory!!!


There is an aspect of this which I wanted to point out...when it comes to "platonic" relationships...

just straight out...plain and simple...men are more sexually aggressive then women...(in general)...

and maybe, in your eyes, you see a relationship as being platonic, a friendship, an emotional strength in a time of trouble...but that doesn't necessarily mean that is what "the man" is feeling...

it may even be possible that the man you were talking to was beginning to think of you sexually, and wanted you to pursue friendships with women so he could nip it in the bud...


here is an example of how things are different for men and women...

you are greeted by the elder..who hugs you and says..

"Hi, Gorgeous."


(just a casual, innocent friendly slightly flirtatious greeting from an usher...)


A beautiful woman comes into church walks up to an elder, hugs him, and says...

"Hi handsome..."


okkkk......what's up with that...


(and my husband definitely wouldn't be into any elders calling me gorgeous...lol..)


but a lot of times, we women think that " the male friends in our lives" our being just as innocent, platonic, and "friendly" as we are being...

but unfortunately...more times than not...it turns out not to be that way...


The best advice is to stay close to your hubby...no matter what...

Like I said, you were upset because the man said he couldn't talk to you....

but only Jesus knows the real reason in his heart, why he felt that way...and although...running off and having an affair never seems to be anyone's purpose for starting a relationship....

it does happen...the more intimate you become with someone...it is only natural ... for intimacy to do what intimacy does...

it brings people closer together...

and unless you are made of concrete...I doubt that any human....no matter how spiritual...because we are all still in "flesh" form...and trying to make it on our journeys....can honestly say that they are above that temptation...


and since you had a past with adultery....you may give off signals that you don't even realize...don't think I am putting you down, because I have been there...believe me...


sometimes, an innocent smile is enough to create pure havoc in your life....

I have had situations occur, from walking down the street and making eye contact with people driving by...

now..I try not to look anywhere...but straight ahead...literally and figuratively

it is better to keep to ourselves, and be quiet, prudent woman...taking care of our homes and husbands...rather than being the advice givers and friends to the hurting men in the church...

that only leads to trouble...and choice number one...is actually Scriptural...lol...
where choice number two...isn't...

Well,
I can tell you that it just, straight up, plain out a good idea...

It is great that you and your (friend) have been so close, but I think you are in the minority of "working platonic" relationships...

as for Scripture ...I know that the Bible states for the men of the church to look at the women of the church as younger sisters...which is great and platonic...but it also states that wives are to ask "their own husbands" their questions...

I can tell you from past experience that you are tempting situations which have no business or place in a marriage...

I understand that you and your husband have a great understanding...but from my point of view...


if "platonic relationships were working" no one would be getting divorced, running off with their secretaries, etc..etc...


I think that since your best friend, besides your husband is a man, and childhood friend, I wouldn't necessarily say you are in disobedience to God's will...

but I think you should definitely walk in wisdom, and guard your emotions with him,

especially since you two are so close, are you sure that deep down, secretly your husband doesn't feel threatened....he may and just not be letting you know...


It is very important that your husband always knows that he is the number one man (next to Jesus of course...:-)

in your life...


my question is...

if you and your husband have an argument...do you run off to your best male friend and "discuss" it with him...if so...

then I would say yes, the relationship is out of God's will...



Just my opinion,

Charisse

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